Working too hard...

Got a sms from an ex-classmates (Pre-U) this morning. She had suggested a gathering for 4 of us (closer frens). Initially I thought they have all confirmed so asked sis if we could postpone our appointment for tonight. After chatting with her online, realised so far only I am ok coz there's no reply from one fren and the other cun make it. So eventually told her cannot make it and told her to co-ordinate again so everyone could make it.

Anyway was talking to her and she shared with me some of her problems at home. She had been married for almost 7 years and has a 1-2 years old son (sort of lost track when she gave birth). She told me nowadays she seldom communicate with her hubby as he is often to busy with his own stuff (business and others). She is putting her son as 1st priority now but unfortunately as she is also busy with her career (her 2nd priority), her son is taken care of by her sister since he was born, only back home during weekends. Her son is obviously not close to her and although she felt sad, she had no choice. She wanted to build a career so she could support herself financially should her marriage fail. Dunno about her but I felt that she should try talking to her hubby and solve whatever problems she has now. Its not easy to maintain a marriage and it takes both hands to clap. If things get worse, the marriage may just fail. Hope she thinks it through and know what to do next.

Sometimes thinking of it, getting married when you are really ready is very important. After that, if you intend to have children, there are more things you will need to compromise or sacrifice. I feel that people nowadays are more modernized or westernised in the sense that they do not treausre relatioonships, marriages or families. No matter how hard you work, at end of the day you will still need a family to lean on. I see a few colleagues working so hard (or up) that they either neglect their social lives (being single, divorced or whatever) or their families. How many chances do you have to see your parents age, your spouse/ partner progress or your children grows? When you finally realised its time for you to pause and see them, they might have distanced a lot from you.

Of course there are many others who have fulfilling lives and treasured what they have. Keep it up... dun do things that you might regret in future...